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Victims of domestic violence come from all walks of life, all cultures, all income
groups, all ages, all religions. They share feelings of hopelessness, isolation, guilt, fear, and shame.

Children are also, in most cases, the victims of domestic violence. Perpetrators traumatize children in the process of battering their adult intimate. The trauma can be inflicted physically, mentally, or both.

If you are battered by your spouse or partner and you think the battering will stop, you are ignoring the problem. The battering incidents will only get worse.

If children are involved, think of their safety. Please talk to someone that can help you. Plan ahead for when you are attacked again. Call the police.

Remember assault, even by a family member, is a crime.

FACTS

  • Partner battering is the major cause of injury to women, exceeding rape, muggings and auto accidents combined.
  • Fifty three percent of female homicide victims are killed by their intimate partners. (Bureau of Justice)
  • In the U.S., a woman is battered every 15 seconds.
  • The AMA reports that 30% of women seeking emergency medical treatment are battered.
  • Battering can happen anywhere, to anyone. Battering does not discriminate!

If you answer 'yes' to any of these questions, it is time to get help.

Does the person you love ...

  • "Track" all of your time?

  • Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?

  • Discourage your relationships with family and friends?

  • Prevent you from working or attending school? Criticize you for little things?

  • Anger easily when drinking or using drugs?

  • Control all finances and force you to account in detail for what you spend?

  • Humiliate you or call you names? Hit, punch, slap, kick, or bite you and/or the children?

  • Destroy personal property or items you love?

  • Use or threaten to use a weapon against you?

  • Force you to have sex against your will?

  • Threaten to hurt you or the children?

If Someone You Know Is In An Abusive Relationship...

1. Call the police when you know the violence is occurring. DO NOT intervene yourself during the conflict.

2. Avoid taking sides. Remember that it is not your responsibility to be a rescuer.

3. Educate yourself about domestic violence.

4. Encourage the victim to keep the following items at a safe location.

.............1..Extra clothing for herself and her children.

..............2. A small amount of money.Copies of all important documents (birth certificate, including her partner's and the children's; drivers license; medical records, including the children's; her partner's and her Social Security numbers; green card; marriage license; bank account numbers; and car pink slip).

..............3. Personal phone numbers of friends and family

5. Take pictures of the victim's wounds and bruises and keep them in a safe place for her.

6. Include her children in relaxing, enjoyable activities to provide diversion and alternative role modeling for them.

7. Be open to honest conversation with the children about their fears, anger, suffering.

8. Refrain from giving advice; rather listen, reflect what you hear, explore options, be supportive and non-judgmental.

9. Make a list of names of potentially helpful persons or agencies.

If you think you may be a victim of abuse, or know someone who is, call us now…. 24 Hour Hotline (714) 992-1931